With teachings and observations, I look at things a little more clearly than before. A realization sparked me to come up with this saying (or motto for life):

"NOTHING IS MANDATORY, BUT THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES."

Everything we do, was done based on a choice made. For example, you don't have to go to work, but if you don't go, there is a possibility that you may get fired, and if you get fired, you might not have money for rent, food, bills, and extras. Thus the "consequences" or domino effect created by an initial choice. No one can make you do anything; no one can "steal" your man- you did what you did because you wanted to, and your man, well he left because he made that choice.
How our life is going; the people we keep close and around us, is the way it is because we allowed it (good or bad). We are powerful beings! In the end you decide. Even if someone held a gun to your head, they cannot force you to do anything, the difference is, you just might because you've made the choice to live.